Marriages are under attack. We are #living in an era where couples are no longer staying together for various reason:
Lack of communication in the #relationship
among a number of things can cause a breakdown in your #marriage. According to National Center for Health Statistics, 3.6 per 1000 marriages ends in #divorce. This is even more alarming when you consider that 6.8% of the total population gets married.
Many marriages end in divorce because couples do not realise how much work it will take to keep their relationship healthy and thriving. Anything you do not continually invest in will fall a part, your marriage is no different. Think about it, #men when you start pursuing your wife, think about how much determination, commitment and imagination it took to seal the deal. Keeping your marriage healthy will even need more work.
But all is not lost. They are strategies you and your spouse can use to fix your #broken marriage and restore it to good health.
2.Compliment Each Other. Do not forget to compliment each other. Let your spouse feel appreciated and feel like you are actually noticing him/her. Practice to compliment each other often. ‘hunny you look great in that blouse/shirt’ ‘hunny I like that new hairstyle’
3.Make your spouse’s happiness more important than your own. Putting our spouse first nurtures trust, gratitude, generosity and affection. It can also lead to physical intimacy. When both of you seek each other’s happiness then both of you in turn will be happy.
4.Surround yourselves with people in healthy relationships. There is a popular saying that goes like this, ‘birds of a feather flocks together’. Want to have a healthy relationship?Surround yourself with people who are happy and despite their challenges are thriving in their respective marriages. If you surround yourself with negative people you may start adopting some of their negative practices. Instead surround yourself with people who value marriage and there’s widespread support for making yours work.
5.Pray for each other. A family that prays together will stays together. Regularly praying and spending alone time with #God will help to glue your marriage together. Both of you should find time to pray and read the Bible together. If the relationship have broken down to the point where both of you hardly speak to each other, ask your spouse to commit to at least 1 month of doing this together.
6. Get counseling. Nothing is wrong with asking help to fix a broken marriage. You say you can’t afford it? Believe me, it’s cheaper than divorce. If you really want to save your marriage, make the investment. Go to pastor or find a professional counsellor.
7. Commit to Change. The truth is, if we really think about it all of us knows what the problems are in the relationship, and if you don’t know both of you should sit down and discuss it together. Once you are both aware of the problem and ready to face reality, it’s time to do something about it. It is time to write the wrongs right, it is time to make a change, to fix things. Simple making a pledge or to apologies and try to soothe away any pain that you have caused. What will make things right is when you go about to fix what is wrong. If it is communication issue, start talking. If it a behavioral issue, try to change. Whatever it is, work on it.
8. Make no ultimatums. It may be tempting to make timelines when changes should be made, but you absolutely cannot put a time frame on when a marriage is going to be “okay.” In fact, the process of healing and rebuilding may go on for years, or even decades. The important thing is that you and your spouse make the effort to stay together and resolve to make the marriage work. If you truly love the person you’re with and want to spend your life with them, then you have to maintain the working parts of the marriage just as you would with a machine.
9.Start over from scratch. Sometimes to fix something that has brokendown and maybe leading to divorce you have to start over. What did you guys did when you first started? When did you last talk for hours, hold hands at a movie or give her a kiss when she wasn’t expecting it? Get silly about one another. If you don’t feel like it, do it anyway—then you’ll remember why. Go out on dates, being married doesn’t mean you should stop dating each other. Spend the weekend at somewhere romantic and try to rekindle the fire.
10. Forgive each other. Mistakes and hurts are a part of every relationship whether it may be romantic or friendly. That therefore means if you want your marriage to work you will have to learn to sincerely apologies when you hurt each other and to forgive each other. Some things will take time, but work on it.
You and your spouse should take a look at these 10 strategies to fix your broken marriage and decide which strategy or strategies or step(s) will work for your present situation. Both of you must be ready and determine to fix your relationship for it work.
Remember that while not every marriage is meant to be, it is important to know that your marriage can work if you want it to. Understand more about what you and your partner are looking for, both from life and from each other, and then move forward from there.
Have you had a broken marriage and have it fix? How did you and your spouse did it? What other strategy or experience would you like to share with our readers? Please share it in the comment section below