When you care for an aging loved one it can cause stress within the family.
It can be difficult for a family to make life changes. People have different expectations and different perceptions about how they get to age in place or move into a home. In some cases families come away disappointed with the results and it causes stress and fighting.
It doesn’t have to be that bad, things don’t have to be that way; things can be simple. You just have to get in front of the potential issues and talk them out in a rational manner.
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Siblings view their parents in different ways
Care is a subjective term and adults brothers and sisters don’t see things the same way. Not everyone sees the struggles of a parent. Some think they’re doing just fine. It can be common when one sibling seems to think that there is not a problem with mom or dad.
When people cannot come together and agree on how much care of parent needs or whether they need care at all it is best to seek guidance from an expert.
Call up a nurse who has experience with senior care and pay them for an assessment in conjunction with the senior’s physician.
In-home care providers routinely do assessments free of charge.
All too common parents are stubborn especially to advice from their children and they will resist care – this is unfortunate. Children naturally want the best for their parents.
Even when everyone is on the same page the parent may resist and want to remain independent.
Maybe the parent doesn’t need to move into a senior community. Maybe you can have in-home senior care services where essential help is provided by a non medical care provider which would allow the parent to live independently and age in place at home.
One Person Does All The Work
Usually one child will end up doing the majority of the heavy lifting. This usually falls on the shoulders of the one that is closest to mom and dad. They will take on the role is the main caregiver.
That sibling will need to get help from their family. They will need to outline and ask for it in a clear manner or they will not get the support. They should be able to take the parents and spend time with them while the main caregiver gets rest.
Caregivers who need a break can get help from respite care and have an in-home caregiver come to perform the necessary services and allow the daughter or son time to recuperate.
Who Pays For Senior Care
For many families paying for the The parents senior care can be a point of contention. It is becoming more and more common that the seniors retirement account won’t cover more than a few months to a few years of senior care.
Funding can be found through Medicaid and Veterans aid but currently children will have to pay for their parents care will have to work it out and talk it out and determine if everyone pays equally or if the richest sibling needs to pay more.The information website payingforseniorcare.com is a resource for figuring out how the finances come together.
Joining Together As A Single Front
No matter what siblings must join together to support their parents in their golden years.
Think about it, parents sacrificed greatly for their children and it is only at the bare minimum courtesy and respect to repay the favor. When it comes to life and happiness being able to support the ones that gave you life and protected you from the darkness and kept you alive and made you who you are deserve to be put in the most comfortable of situations to enjoy life as they age.